There’s a way of life that looks harmless enough;
look again—it leads straight to hell.
Sure, those people appear to be having a good time,
but all that laughter will end in heartbreak.
Proberbs 14:12-13 (The Message)
I am old enough, at 60, to have a bit of perspective on issues that the passionate young often lack. I hear people saying that the issue of same-gender marriage, or the exact equivalent by another name, is a civil rights issue. I can understand that argument to an extent — I honestly can… but it is really not that simple.
Everyone who has deeply held core beliefs bases them on something. (Read the first few chapters of Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis) For me, and historically in America, our shared fundamental values have flowed from the Judeo-Christian understanding of moral values. Even though we try to be tolerant of those who base theirs on something else, the strength of America has been built upon our mutually shared understanding that it is important for society to express a public morality that transcends religion: regardless of faith, we have a public morality that seeks to discourage public intoxication, while allowing the private consumption of alcohol. We recognize that married people sometimes cheat on their spouses, but we heap upon those who commit adultery appropriate shame. We know, as a society, that we can never completely eliminate the use of recreational narcotics, yet we, as a society, continue to maintain laws against such use, and express our displeasure toward those who indulge. In other words, we, as a society have always legislated matters of morality as perceived by the majority.
Homosexuality is one of those public morality issues. I don’t really care what any two consenting adults want to do with each other, or to one another in private. I have some pretty definite opinions about the morality of such behavior, but I recognize that private behavior is impossible to control. In the early days of the so-called “gay rights” movement, the cry was for an end to active persecution of homosexuals. The Stonewall riots in NYC took place the year I graduated from high school. They were a reaction to police raids on a gay gathering spot.
Gays of the 60s said “Just leave us alone and we’ll be happy. That’s all we want, is just to be left alone!” That was a position most people found reasonable: leave them alone. But, once left alone (at least somewhat) and given tacit permission of the greater society to gather in private, the progression began…
From “leave us alone”, to
Accept us for who we are, to
Celebrate us!, to
Remove every legal difference between us the rest of society.
It was at the “celebrate us” stage that the push back began. The overwhelming majority of Americans find homosexuality repugnant, as evidenced in referendum after referendum. They may be willing to look the other way and give tacit approval to private conduct they find deviant, but they are unwilling to applaud that behavior or celebrate it.
So now we have reached the stage of gay demands to be afforded all the rights and privileges of their straight neighbors, and they can’t understand why everyone is not on board. It is because we, as a society still reserve the right to legislate a common civic morality. Yes, it is at its root faith-based, but it far transcends people of faith. Agnostics, atheists and people of faith share the understanding that there are things about which society takes a civic morality stance and says “this far, and no further.”
The proponents of moving toward same-sex relationship acceptance never want the matter to be decided by the people; they aways try to end-run the civic morality views of the community by attempting to utilize activist judges or liberal-Democrat-dominated legislatures to overrule the clearly expressed will of the people.
The canard most often used is, “Well, if the issue of SLAVERY had been put to a popular vote in the 1860s we would still have slaves today!” The obvious — laughable — flaw in that emotional argument is that if we had voted on slavery in the 1860s the slaves would have had no vote and no voice, but this is not slavery, and it is not 1860: it is 2010, and if we hold yet another referendum on whether to override our sense of common civic morality and elevate gay relationships to the equal position of straight relationships, the gay people will have the same right to vote as I have.
The outcome will be the same as every public referendum on the subject. People don’t care so much about private, consensual activity, but they prefer a common civic morality that attaches disapproval to gay relationships.
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